Is setting a boundary actually a judgement? It was a very uncomfortable realization as recently a friend pointed this out to me when I asked, if by expressing my boundary was I sounding judgmental?
When we hold the belief that our way is the only right way we are judging others on their morals. When we could instead choose the skill of curiosity and choose to learn more rather than to show up in a place of judgement.
I grew up in a household where everyone was extremely judgemental. I’ve since learned that when we judge others so much we do so as a way to make ourselves feel better. But driving connection with another because you are both judging someone else, isn’t true connection.
I admit it. I was seething. Had you been standing beside me you would have felt the negative energy coming off of me like waves rolling up on the shore.