Taking ownership of how you show up. Who are you being in the world?

Are you conscious of taking ownership of how you show up in your life, of who you are being in the world? 

Yes these questions are existential. They are meant to make you  think more about your existence as a human being and therefore become more aware of what character traits you do or do not exemplify to the world. Do you know how others view you? 

WHAT’S YOUR WAY OF BEING

Creating greater self awareness if a large part of a coach’s job. It’s when this awareness happens that our client’s naturally begin to grow, change and transform. This is what many of my clients come to coaching for.  What they learn in the process of creating that awareness is that they don’t always behave or “show up” in their world the way they want to. They’re way of being in the world may not be in alignment with what they actually want for themselves. 

 . We’re not checking in with ourselves on how we behaved or aware of our way of being in certain situations. 

For some, those who think about possibly working with a coach, they start to question the status quo. 

WHO AM I BEING?

What is meant by “who am I being?” 

If you’ve spent some time learning about your values you might perhaps be someone for whom integrity is a top value. When you see others not showing integrity you get bothered or upset. If you cross your own line of integrity, you get frustrated with yourself. 

Brené Brown, Phd. MSW. defines integrity as: 

“choosing courage over comfort, choosing what is right over what is fun, fast or easy; and choosing to practice our values rather than simply professing them.” 

So if I say, who are you being? It’s the same as asking, when you have to make a choice on something do you choose courage or comfort? Do you usually do what’s fun, fast or easy instead of perhaps taking the more difficult path because that more difficult path lines up with your values and by making that choice you are in line with your integrity?

So many character traits can just be words to people. When we’re consciously thinking about who we are being in the world we’re making a choice of which character trait we want to exemplify. 

Are you being:

• brave or courageous
• compassionate or kind
• honest or direct 
• vulnerable or reflective
• accepting or responsible 

WHY BOTHER? 

These and many more character traits we choose to exemplify are important for two reasons.  First, if we live a life where we choose to be more self aware and act in a manner that exemplifies these traits, then we are happier because our actions are honouring our desires and or values. Second if we are trying to fit in at work, make a new friend or be known as someone that others think is a great person, whom they want to be associated with, then it is actually quite easy for others to see in us the choice we made of who we are being. 

As human beings we all have the desire for and need to feel connected to others. When we make a choice about who we are going to be in our world that way of being can actually draw others to us. That happens because those character traits may be just as important for them as they are to us. 

CHANGING YOUR WAY OF BEING

Showing up differently in our own lives, making different choices takes effort and consistency.  Just like losing weight, you’ve got to work at it and commit to your desired goal. Creating greater self awareness and living a life that honors the character traits you value and admire will take effort as well. But you don’t have to go it alone. 

Working with a coach gives you 3 things;

•   a place to check in and reflect on who you’re being.  
•  accountability to yourself and the changes you want to make.
•  a place to celebrate when you hit a home run.  Knowing that there is someone who totally gets what it took for you to do that is huge. 

So, who do you want to start being in the world? 

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