Linda's Picks

The Queen's Code

As a woman, have you ever wished there was a manual you could read that would finally help you to understand men? One that would tell you why they seem to do frustrating things over and over again? Men, have you ever felt the same? Does the woman in your life continue to drive you crazy? Are there times when you just don’t get why she does what she does? Do you wish there was some secret formula you could get your hands on to make your life easier with your partner? Sadly there is no such manual…. or is there?   Well I think I’ve found it.

Nonviolent Communication

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How good of a communicator are you? Do you yell and make judgements or do you listen and empathize with the other person?

Do you get defensive and stand your ground or are you able to put your emotions on hold for a moment and truly listen to what the other person is not saying? I’m what some people would call reactionary.  When something happened in my life my first response was react rather dramatically.  But I learned over the last 4 years that this type of communication style was not working well for me, just ask my ex husband!!

Positive Intelligence

How often does your mind act as your enemy more than your friend?

You know what I mean, when the voice inside your head says that won’t work, that’s too expensive, too hard, too scary, and so on.

In Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine, he addresses the issue of the percentage of time our brain is working positively (serving us) versus negatively (sabotaging us.)

If you've worked with a coach you’re already very familiar with whom your saboteur is. Chamine states that we actually have more than one saboteur, he believes there to be 10. There is however a leader, the strongest of the group, the one we all suffer from... THE JUDGE. The other 9 are accomplice saboteurs and each of us will recognize a different one in ourselves. He lists the others as the Stickler, Pleaser, Hyper-Vigilant, Restless, Controller and the Avoider. Any of those look familiar to you?