New Years resolutions.
Whatever you want to call it all of these things mean taking ownership of where your life is going.
For all of my married life I never did this. I was too exhausted from work, raising a child and running a household. These days however it seems like something I must do, because I want to, I feel an urge. I want to grow as a person.
Most of us think of doing this in January and to be honest there are many of us who never do it, we just let life happen to us. But last month one of my clients said he wanted to start his 2017 focus list now and I admit, I’ve kind of gotten caught up in the idea of it.
Some people never set goals in their life due to the fear of failure, so if you don’t’ sent a goal then you can’t fail, right? I was like this but since becoming a coach I’ve done my work on “failure” and have learned to have more self compassion around it.
So what would it look like if you set your goals from a place of greater flexibility? If you came from the perspective of creating some ideas around what you want your “focus” to be for the coming year. What you want to make progress towards. Some of the things will get done and some will get relegated to a wish list, I find if I do this that I don’t feel a sense of guilt or failure over it.
So how do you begin a “focus” list?
One of my favorite things to say in support of my clients is “whenever we learn something new we take two steps forward and one step back, but regardless of that step back we have still moved forward. We are no longer in the place where we started.”
So what do I want to focus on for 2017? I’d like to stick to my plan of writing one blog post a month. I did not achieve it this year but it’s something I want to do next year. It forces me to learn, allows me to connect with my friends and clients on a different level and allows me to share things I learn with others.
If I take a step back one month, ie: don’t post, feel free to hold me accountable by bringing it to my attention!!
Why not leave a comment as to what you would like to focus on for 2017, putting it here is another way to hold yourself accountable to what you say you want in your life.