The excitement of dating…. can we maintain the initial euphoria?

Recently a friend posted to Facebook this great video on why, scientifically, we are unable to maintain that amazing feeling of euphoria and butterflies we get when we first start dating. Naturally I was excited to watch this because I have now been in my current relationship for a year and a half and I have to admit there are times when I miss that feeling of elation and excitement and I have wanted to know how I could get it back. So I checked out the video.

It's a practice, not an emotion!! Learning how to use Empathy.

Several weeks ago I was involved in a car accident. I wasn’t physically hurt but I was pretty shaken. My car was drivable and I made it home but this was the fourth fender bender in 5 years and I was pretty sure my car was going to be written off; on top of that the person who hit me had said a few things that led me to think she may not take ownership of the accident.

Needless to say when my partner got home a half hour after me that night, I was still pretty shaken and worried.

Curiosity did NOT kill the cat.

You’ve heard the saying before, curiosity killed the cat. You were taught it as a kid to ensure you keep our nose out of things. Well I’m here to start a new saying; Curiosity saved my relationship/friendship.

With my coaching niche being communication, I focus on helping clients improve their communication skills in all of their relationships, in order to build deeper connections.

Testimonial - Mimi

Linda is an amazing coach and has become a valuable addition to my life. She is an attentive listener; and offers valuable reflections, tied in with accountability tasks, and sometimes life experiences. I appreciate the time she takes to celebrate my successes with me, as well as the times she walks me through the difficult times. She is an incredible coach, and an even more incredible person. I value our time together as well as the effort that she puts into it. She really does care about me as a person over top of everything.

 
 

What's your Why and can you communicate it?

Is there something in your life you truly hate? Something you just can’t stand? Do you know why you hate it? I have very strong feelings about large corporations. I have this strong dislike because I have spent 21 years of my working life in them.  I never really fit in; I always questioned why they were doing what they were doing. It was never logical to me. And it was ALWAYS about the bottom line.

Asking for what you need

“You’re always late when we get together, I find that frustrating.” Sound familiar? Do you have a friend or a colleague who is always late and you value punctuality?Or maybe they always cancel your plans at the last moment, driving you crazy.Have you ever had the courage to talk to your friend about these types of issues? Or do you just stop making the effort and within a short period of time you are no longer in each other’s lives?

The Queen's Code

As a woman, have you ever wished there was a manual you could read that would finally help you to understand men? One that would tell you why they seem to do frustrating things over and over again? Men, have you ever felt the same? Does the woman in your life continue to drive you crazy? Are there times when you just don’t get why she does what she does? Do you wish there was some secret formula you could get your hands on to make your life easier with your partner? Sadly there is no such manual…. or is there?   Well I think I’ve found it.

Are you conscious of your environment?

How many times have you heard self help professionals say, don’t spend your time with negative people. Surround yourself with positive supporting people who help to build you up rather than sap all of your energy every time you see them.

I certainly adhere to that belief and I am careful about choosing who I spend my time with, ensuring that I surround myself with strong leaders, people who are working on their personal growth, people who are setting goals and achieving them, people who inspire me.

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Why Life Coaching?

"Next to physical survival, the greatest need of a human being is psychological survival – to be understood, to be affirmed, to be validated, to be appreciated."

- Steven R. Covey

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Did you know that you stand a significantly greater chance of succeeding in achieving your goals if you have an accountability partner?

Did you know that coaches don’t give advice or tell you what to do?

Did you know that many CEO’s have their own coaches?

Imagine what it would be like to celebrate with someone when you achieve your goal or dream. Imagine how it would feel to have that person know exactly the struggles you went through to get to where you are and to share that celebratory moment with you.

Imagine how empowered  you would feel when you begin to learn the skills to resolve your struggles in life and no longer hear that negative voice you’ve been listening to all these years.

Imagine a relationship where someone brought their curiosity to you versus their judgement. What would it feel like to finally be heard by another person?  Understood at a deeper level?  

This is what coaching can do for you.

This is what I can do for you as your coach.

  • Create a safe environment for you to see yourself more clearly. 
  •  Help you identify gaps between where you are in your life and where and who you want to be in your life. 
  • Help you to become more self aware, to look at your behaviours and patterns from a different perspective and to work at changing those that are no longer serving you.
  • To guide you to build structure, accountability and supports in your life that ensure sustained commitment to what you are wanting and to what you are not.

If you’re feeling like something is missing in your life or you want to kick things up a notch and see what could be possible if you had someone supporting you on your journey, then you are ready for a coach.

If personal growth and development are important to you, if you want to learn more about yourself and the role you play in this world then you’re ready for a coach.  

The International Coaching Federation’s research shows that 96% of people who used coaches would do so again in their lives.  80% of those who worked with a coach had improved self confidence and 72% of people working regularly with a coach improved their communication skills.   

Taking the leap to work with a coach is a major life changing decision, and that’s exactly why you should do it. It will change your life.

Coaching is my life’s passion. I’d love to share with you what coaching has done for me and how it can change your life too. Schedule a free sample coaching session now. 

 

From The Blog

Recently a friend posted to Facebook this great video on why, scientifically, we are unable to maintain that amazing feeling of euphoria and butterflies we get when we first start dating. ...

Several weeks ago I was involved in a car accident. I wasn’t physically hurt but I was pretty shaken. My car was drivable and I made it home but this was the fourth fender bender in 5 years and I...

You’ve heard the saying before, curiosity killed the cat. You were taught it as a kid to ensure you keep our nose out of things. Well I’m here to start a new saying; Curiosity saved my...

From The Blog

Recently a friend posted to Facebook this great video on why, scientifically, we are unable to maintain that amazing feeling of euphoria and butterflies we get when we first start dating. ...

Coaching

 

Are you are feeling stuck, discontented, off balance or unmotivated ?

Coaching will guide you through, not around, each of these feelings and have you come out the other side being more of the person you always knew you were. We will work on developing your skill of self-observation thus becoming aware of your habits and when certain tendencies arise. Self-observation is critical in building change that you can sustain and using coaching we develop this with your learning rather than your performance. Though there are performance coaches, that is not my focus with clients. 

 

What will coaching do for me?

  • Discover what it is you really want in your life, and how to begin working towards it.
  • Provide a partner to hold the “big picture” for you when daily life can get you bogged down with details.
  • Help to get you unstuck from your current perspective and help you to understand how it may be holding you back.
  • Be your accountability partner as you work towards achieving that more fulfilling life you always dreamed of.
  • Provide you with someone to listen, nurture and support you without judgment, allowing you to be vulnerable and honest with yourself, creating space to grow.

Together we will also dig into what your values are, determining what it would take to live a more fulfilling life. We will discover more about that voice inside that always sabotages you when you think about trying something new and we will discover a new voice, one that you perhaps have not listened to in a very long time. "Life can be a daring adventure," as Helen Keller once said, the question is, are you ready to go after it? 

I am a certified Life Coach through The Coaches Training Institute. I work with you to make changes in your life because what you’ve always been doing doesn’t seem to be working anymore. By holding a safe place for you to speak and express yourself I assist by taking you from where you are in your life right now to where you want to be, who you want to be. With your effort together we begin to see changes in patterns and behaviors that will begin to serve you better. It is my job to empower you, to assist you to reach your highest level in your personal or professional development. I see  your potential, share my resources with you and demonstrate that I believe in you completely. When was the last time you felt empowered?

I offer a  free 30 minute sample session to get a taste of what coaching feels like and to see if we are a good fit. Establishing a good connection and the ability to communicate well with each other are key to a strong coaching relationship.

So go ahead, jump off the edge of the cliff, feel the fear and do it anyway… contact me for a sample coaching session …. you have nothing to lose.

Testimonials

Linda is a wonderful warm, caring, highly intuitive individual who brings these qualities and so much more to each of our coaching sessions. I am so grateful to have her in my life and I truly value our time together. I have been able to see things about myself that I would not have figured if I had not had Linda, She is professional and skilled at what she does but at the same time, it is like sitting down and chatting with an old friend. Many thanks for your time and insights Linda, you are a wonderful soul!

- Jenna
Vancouver, BC

Linda reminded me of the tools I have and offered new ones to get me on track – recognizing and planning toward my goals. Linda has enthusiasm and positive energy which supported my process. Excellent coach!

- Jennifer
Victoria, BC

Linda is an excellent life coach who is extremely perceptive, a wonderful listener and a great accountability partner. Linda has a lovely mix of professionalism together with a great sense of fun and real zest for life which makes working with her a joy. I highly recommend her!

- Mark
Parksville, BC

When I was looking for a life coach, it was important to me that they hold me accountable for my actions and provide me with options to move forward. Linda has an amazing way of summing up how I was feeling and provided me with a different outlook on the situation. Each time she would reflect on my journey of where I wanted to be and how far I had come. When I started with Linda I was tired of seeking the advisement of friends and family around my personal life. I felt like I was always complaining with no action plan in place. Once I started to work with Linda I noticed that the time I was spending with family and friends started to become more meaningful because I was no longer complaining about life, instead I was tackling it with attainable strategies and soon celebrating my successes! 

- Lisa
Vancouver, BC

Linda is an excellent communication coach! I have learned so much from her about communication, perhaps about living a fulfilling life in general. Particularly I found her knowledge on Dr. Marshall Rosenberg’s Non-Violent/Compassionate Communication very valuable to cultivate my family, work and social relationships. She is wise and caring; and absolutely passionate about my personal growth. Her non-directive coaching style worked so well for me, helping me to find out my goals and appropriate plans to achieve them. I wish I had known her before, and highly recommend her to others with a growth mindset.

- Uzay
Victoria, BC

Linda is an amazing coach and has become a valuable addition to my life. She is an attentive listener; and offers valuable reflections, tied in with accountability tasks, and sometimes life experiences. I appreciate the time she takes to celebrate my successes with me, as well as the times she walks me through the difficult times. She is an incredible coach, and an even more incredible person. I value our time together as well as the effort that she puts into it. She really does care about me as a person over top of everything.

 
 
-Mimi
Toronto, Ont.

About Linda

Coaching changed my life.

The power of coaching is it changes us. It brings out our brilliance, it lights us up and it opens up our lives to wonderful possibilities. It did it for me and it can do it for you. I didn’t stop to think how much my coach training would change me and how it would be the catalyst that got me through my separation.  (added bonus.)

I discovered life coaching while I was an expat living in Panama. There my marriage of 24 years ended and this spark of an idea that had begun to resonate with me, turned into a reality when I returned to Canada. As I began to learn about coaching I knew I had found my calling, it just took until I was 42!!! As my training evolved I learned what it meant to really listen to someone, while taking my own thoughts and putting them on the back burner. I learned what curiosity can bring to a conversation and I learned how to get unstuck from my current perspective and see a situation from a different angle.   (cause really there’s just my view of it isn’t there??? )

My coaching focus has begun to lean towards people who are either struggling to be good communicators with the people in their life or who want to become better ones. Every relationship you have involves communicating; we all do it every day. Yet for many of us we are uncomfortable, unhappy or just plain lost when it comes to connecting and communicating with people in our lives. When my 24 year marriage ended I knew a big part of it was due to a lack of communication, on both of our parts. My journey has taught me that this is an area many of us struggle in. Whether your 20 or 70 how we communicate with people is something many of us don’t pay too much conscious attention to. 

My own life experiences of divorce, being an expat, being a mom, my personal growth and learning to be a better communicator all weave their way into my coaching style. These things have allowed me to discover my curiosity and compassion, some of the keys to being a good coach.

I am passionate about life, about seeing it as an adventure, always wondering what is around the next corner. There is no BS with me, what you see is what you get, I am genuine and direct. Accountability and responsibility are two of my strongest values and you will see that when we work together.

I am also passionate about people, I’m passionate about you!

Why? Because I believe in you. If you have found my site and are reading this then you are ready to do something different with your life. You’re longing for something more has made you take action, and here we are. So what are you going to do about it?

 

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